So – every girl wants to be able to say that her fiancé is going to be super involved in every aspect of the wedding planning process, but let’s be real here girls, that just ain’t gonna happen.
But it is y’alls wedding, right? I mean, the BOTH of you are getting married, aren’t you? Therefore, I think it is exceedingly important that he has some kind of role in the planning process, whether he is really interested in the Purple Mountain Majesty’s swatch for your bridesmaids’ dresses, or not.
Before you throw all of your plans for damask linens and cute little pomanders all over him, let’s take a step back and do some evaluating:
i) As aforementioned, leave the hip wedding lingo to conversations with your planner, mother, MOH, etc. Throw a couple of those words at him and he’ll give you that confused look your daddy gave you when you mentioned you spent $4,000… on flowers.
ii) Make a list. Sit down with your soon-to-be hubby and talk about what you think he would be really good at being in charge of. (Be sure to add lots of “well, you’re so talented with this,” or “babe, you would be so much better at that than me”). Let him know how much you would appreciate his help, even if you only need him to do a few things here and there.
iii) If you ask for his opinion, be ready to actually take it into account. And I know most girls will read this and be like, well duh? But really, if you are already leaning heavily toward an option, and you think he may not agree with you, it may be best not to ask him (chances are he won’t notice on your big day).
So, now that we’ve gotten all of THAT out of the way, how about we talk about some ways that your Boo-Boo can help you out with all of this stressful (I mean, uh – wonderful) wedding planning business. I’ve thought of a few things that I would definitely feel comfortable leaving up to my fiancé. Now, feel free to leave comments and tell me about your experiences!
- Have him type up his half (or less-than-half) side of the guest list, and you two can grab a glass of wine for a pre screening of your wedding guests.
- If your betrothed is super creative, ask him to help you choose your invitations, after all – your invitations should tell a story of your relationship, so input from both sides of that relationship should be helpful.
- Put him in charge of selecting the drinks to be served at your reception, maybe have him attend a wine tasting with a few of his buddies to get a better idea of what he likes.
- If you share a common taste in music with your beau, think about letting him choose the music to be played at your reception – but be prepared to tweak his list a bit to add a few more “romantic” songs in there.
- Should you choose to forgo the limo and if your guy were anything like mine, he would LOVE the chance to choose the getaway car. Let him choose the car you all use to make your “great escape”. Make sure you stress to him the importance of HAVING a way to leave your wedding, also.
- While it may be tradition for the groom to plan the honeymoon, I know many brides aren’t 100% comfortable with that, so maybe put him in charge of finding the best deals for hotels near your wedding venue for your out-of-town guests to stay at. He may be able to find some good bargains and also make sure your guests are taken care of.
Now, with all of that being said, if you ask for his help, make sure you’re willing to let go of those responsibilities yourself. I know that I am QUITE the control freak and I want to oversee absolutely everything, but if I were to nitpick Wes’ way of doing things I know that it would really upset him. Remember that you trust this man and realize that he is going to take this seriously because he wants to make YOU happy.
Also, don’t forget that everyone needs a break from their own wedding. Don’t be afraid to take some time away from the planning and the stressing for the two of you to be engaged, your budget sheets and linen swatches will be there for you when you return. Enjoy your time with your fiancé, your wedding day will come soon enough – followed by the rest of your lives.
